I am my own reason to smile !!

So lately I have been focusing a lot on my mental health and have learned along the path its me who needs to stop obsessing over people and treat how they treat me. 

Hands down I am empathetic and for a long time I wasn't able to say no to people became a people pleaser and forgot about boundary settings. 

Counseling and dwelling in the world of therapy helped me define boundaries and accept people for who they are. People don't change and no matter how much you try they will never change unless they themselves wish to be a part of you as well. 

In the midst of all these changing riots and being anxious for things that were never mine I was lost and my attention diverted from myself to a whole other person and some of my actions were also meant for validation as a certain satisfaction was there I need to prove myself and be available for my person so that they might not in any way find me unsuitable. But oh my god I was undeniably wrong and the understanding of being self sufficient was rarely crossed me. 

 I never regretted my actions as they made me who I am today and if I hadn't gone through that phase I wouldn't have learned to love myself and to stop chasing illusions that never made me smile instead kept deteriorating my mental health. 

People come and go but the one's who stood by you always are the one's we need to acknowledge and try becoming their reason for smile. Everything happens on its time it's all believing and trusting the process. If nothing is going our way that does not mean it's our fault we should embrace the sorrows and let go of the grief stored within and the path to self love opens and a cosmic flow enters where things start happening and you understand the importance of your own self worth. 

"never be a people pleaser, define boundaries". Sana